Many couples get stuck in arguments or power struggles that they find repeating over and over and over again. Often the primary problem is the focus of these interactions is on being right rather than problem solving. One of the initial goals in working with couples struggling with communication is helping you to refocus on understanding one another and problem solving. This is done by learning to slow down, own your feelings and expressing yourself in a respectful way that will enable your partner to hear you. Through this process and practice you can once again meet your emotional needs for being loved, heard, respected and understood in ways that works for both of you.